Fighting is generally frowned upon by everyone. Parents, teachers, some peers, and almost all cops. We use fighting in our life to further ourselves, some fights may not be physical, but it's still fighting. Just because some people prefer physicality to other options doesn't mean that they are bad people. In some cases we need to use our brawn instead of our brains. If someone is doing crap to you or any one in your family, it's your responsibility to end it. If anyone laid one finger on my family, I know that I wouldn't hold myself back at all. In some cases, violence IS the answer. Never, never show fear or resraint if you are challenged but if it's needed, drop that kid and show him who's the boss. These little punks think that if they beat you, they will earn some respect, in that case, let your knuckles show them the respect they deserve. It might be frowned upon by your teachers and peers, but until they are in that position, they don't know what it's like to be hunted down so a punk can try to earn some street cred. Always look for a comprimise, but if someone's giving you lip, shove that lip down their throat. I am not advocating vilence, but I am saying that if the time calls, don't make it call again.